I became an Aunt yesterday.
I’m currently a step aunt to 4 kiddos (two of which live in Denver and I get to see regularly), but now I’m a biological aunt too!
My brother had a daughter.
I’m part of quite a large family… two brothers, one sister, one half-sister, two step-sisters, and one step-brother.
Now, there are an additional 5 kiddos under the age of 5 among us 8 siblings! AND... two are twin boys!
Yes… we are growing in multiples😮.
It has me thinking about the next generation.
It has me thinking about what I would tell the younger version of myself.
What advice to I have to offer after almost 38 years in this human form?
It turns out, a lot!
Here are a few of the learnings that I would share:
1. No one really knows what they are doing. Figure out what works for you, and/or give yourself permission to make it up as you go! As one of my brother in laws would say… “YOU do YOU!”.
2. You will be hurt, disappointed, let down, betrayed, ignored, taken advantage of, etc., etc., by people you love (and who love you!). Don’t take it personally. It’s not about you. Forgiveness is the only way through. [Note: on the flip side, you will probably do the same from time to time so try and have a little empathy… I know it’s hard😜].
3. Believe that “it” is possible.
4. Look for the magic. It is everywhere.
5. Search for people, places, things, activities, hobbies, etc., that excite you. (These things are out there... believe me!) It doesn’t mean that things will always be easy or enjoyable, but the spark will carry you through.
6. Your parents love you and have good intentions, but they are human and therefore, imperfect creatures (even though they may tell you otherwise😉). They are influenced by their own environment, conditioning, and internal belief system. Consider what they say, but make your own decisions.
7. Follow your heart… and give yourself permission to be afraid. You will be afraid!
8. Life is beautiful, amazing, heartwarming, fun, exciting, joyful, AND (at the same time) is also ugly, horrific, heartbreaking, boring, depressing, sad, and painful. Find a way to hold the paradox of it all. Know that you have a choice in any given moment as to which screen you choose to look at.
9. You are responsible for your own happiness. Don't... ever... forget... that!
10. Remember that you always have options, especially when it doesn’t feel that way.
I think that’s it for now. I’m sure more will come to me later.
How about you?
What would you tell the younger generation?
What advice would you give to the younger version of yourself?
I’d love to know, and you might find it fun and insightful writing it down😊!
Here’s to taking our own advice for the sake of a more enriching future!
As always… In Ultimate Support of You,
PS These days it’s challenging to get all 8 (now 13) of us together. Which makes the time we do get together, that much more special. Thanks to the initiation and planning efforts largely from my mom and stepdad, this next get together is scheduled to take place next month. I can’t wait to meet 3 of my new nephews and nieces! Let the fun begin!